UPDATE: GIVEAWAY ENDS MAY 11| Blogging/Life|Possibilities

 

Hello again!

I just wanted to remind you all on my ongoing giveaway! I took away some books due to obvious reason but I also added that you all wanted on the list. Again, you just need to follow and comment. All the info and how it enter is found HERE.

I also have a couple updates I want to talk about with you guys!

  1. I said I was going to delete my blog due to mental health reasonings. This is still, I want to say, half true. After a week of talking to a university therapist, my mental health awareness club (who now knows about this blog hello fellow Active Minds member if you’re reading this) and thinking over, I’m going to sort of keep this blog. You see, I’m going to delete a lot of the posts, I’m going to even delete my blog name. However, I’m still going to keep this blog because I didn’t even realize that this is sort of a part of me now. I underestimated how much blogging truly meant to me and simple thought of this as a hobby. I love making book reviews and talking to other book enthusiasts. Literally, for this entire week, I was thinking about this blog over and over again. So instead, I’m going to start a clean slate. A New Beginning! A new name (still pending) new theme, new posts (more book reviews).
  2. I’m dropping out of college! Okay, I’m just dropping out of university. College is great and all but what they don’t tell you is that it’s almost literally impossible to pay for without taking out loans. I’m already in like 12,000 in debt so I decided to finish my last 12 or so classes at a community college back at home. I’ve learned a lot in the past year and I wouldn’t take anything back but man university kicked my ass.
  3. I’m sticking to psychology as a career. I think watching 13 Reasons Why reminded me why I wanted to do psychology in the first place: destigmatizing mental health (and the show unfortunately portrayed too many stigmas).
  4. Herbal supplements + walking+ reading+ drinking crap loads of water= very helpful equation that eases anxiety (most of the time).
  5. In my reviews, I want to focus on representation, especially surrounding mental health.

 

So yes a lot of changes. Thank you to everyone who gave me nice comments on my past post since they were very encouraging. The new and improve blog that I make is going to be more “lowkey” aka mostly book reviews  (though I’ll add some other content of course) and not set schedule (just whenever I can post)

Again thank you to everyone who has been on this journey with me.

 

[not]Deleting my blog!| No worries, the giveaway will still be going on!!!

Hello all!

This post will be my last post (well sort of). I’ve come to realized that I can no longer run this blog, especially with my current mental state.

I’ve been struggling with my mental health for years but 2017 has become on of the worst yet. I decided to make this blog because I love talking about books with other book lovers and it also became therapeutic. However, I have this constant stress of making sure my blog in running, this constant stress of writing post, this constant stress of making graphics and such. I really do try to not worry about those types of things but I have and I can’t stop.

However, I will be getting the help that I need (if you were worried :))

So instead, I’m going to keep my Goodreads running. I’ll write reviews for all the books I read so if you really want to hear my thoughts, then you can friend me on Goodreads!(since those are my favorite posts to do anyways).

Thank you to all who followed me from the beginning and the end. Thank you to those who comment and who leave likes. I love you all, I really do. I can’t thank everybody enough honestly.  Maybe one day, where I am in content, Ill start a new blog. But till then, I’m leaving the community (somewhat I’m still posting reviews on goodreads).

To the people I’m following: I will try to figure out how I can be on the mailing list so I can still see your post! I don’t want to leave completely:).

I will be deleting mostly everything from my blog except for the giveaway post, the winner of the giveaway and this one!

The Giveaway is still going on . I think I’ll change it to my Farewell giveaway! I’ll probably post reminders about the giveaway once a week as a reminder.  The requirements still requires you to follow me (you can unfollow me after it’s over) and to comment.

GIVEAWAY HERE

GOODREADS

Goodbye for now (or forever only the future can tell). To the people who friend me/going to friend me on Goodreads, see you then. Don’t worry, I wont take offense if you don’t want to be my friend on Goodreads 🙂

 

To the People Who Watched 13 Reasons Why

{enter my current giveaway!——–> here!!!!!!!}

I feel like the show lacked the importance of mental health, suicide prevention, etc so here are some friendly reminders.

  1. If you know somebody that has the symptoms of suicidal, giving them love is good, but please encourage them to seek help. If you are in high school, tell your friend about the counseling services and/or even go with them to a session. If you are in college, do the same and there’s most likely even more resources. 
  2. Signs of someone who may be thinking about committing suicide: change in mood, change in sleep pattern, change in appearance, change in eating habits, lack of care in personal hygiene, giving away personal items, withdraw from activities/people, joking/threatening about suicide/self harm, reckless behavior ([binge] drinking , smoking, etc).
  3. If your school has them, take a mental aid training session. I took a QPR (Question, Persuade, Infer) suicide course and it was amazing. You learn how to ask someone if they are thinking about committing suicide, you persuade them to not do the act, and refer them to help. This may seem like a simple process but the training provides a better insight on how to act on these three steps. There are also other courses that focuses on other aspects of mental health. Most of these courses are FREE!!!
  4. If you yourself are experiencing suicidal thoughts, you are not alone. There’s people who want to help and what you’re feeling is just temporary. Talk to a loved one and/or most importantly see a certified counselor/therapist. Take it from me, seeking help may seem scary but it’s the best thing I’ve done in my entire life and I wouldn’t be here today if I didn’t. 
  5. If you know somebody who self harms, don’t judge, don’t shame. Give them the support they need. Listen to them. Don’t give them so much advice rather inform them on the resources. Be patient because self-harm addiction isn’t easy to just give up.
  6. If you yourself self-harm, look at your patterns. Do you usually self-ham on a specific day? Try to keep yourself busy during those times. Read, take a walk, blog, write, phone a friend/family member, play on your phone, pet a dog, go to the mall (window shop!) cook, CLEAN, etc. Throw away the tools you use (some people say hide but this definitely did not work for me). I may sound like a broken record but get the help you need.
  7. If you know or who is  someone who was sexually assaulted and it’s within 72 hours, urge them to go get medical assistance and perform a rape kit. Don’t let them wash themselves or their clothes. Report the crime to law enforcement. Again, be patient with them. Don’t spread their business around school/town without their consent (same goes with all these points actually). If it’s passed the time period, still do everything. Go to counseling. No one should do this alone.
  8. Triggers are real. Tell your friends about what they are getting into. THESE ARE NOT SPOILERS. SUICIDE, SELF-HARM, SEXUAL ASSAULT ARE NOT SPOILERS. I wished I wish someone told me about the content of the show.  

Suicide Prevention Hotline:  Call 1-800-273-8255. 24 hours and confidential (I have had a good experience with them). If you are feeling suicidal, please seek help because you are wanted, you deserve life.

Self Harm Hotline:  Call 1-800-273-TALK (no experience but I hope you will still consider)

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (no experience but I hope you consider)

 

The show promoted the importance of love but let’s not forget that love does not cure mental illness. Mental health awareness is important and people should know that seeking help doesn’t mean you’re weak. Let’s promote healthy lives.

I’m always here for you all. If you want to private message me with any concerns, questions of just need someone to talk to, you can DM on Twitter @QPullum

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Openly Straight by Bill Konigsberg {Review}

16100972Rafe is a normal teenager from Boulder, Colorado. He plays soccer. He’s won skiing prizes. He likes to write.

And, oh yeah, he’s gay. He’s been out since 8th grade, and he isn’t teased, and he goes to other high schools and talks about tolerance and stuff. And while that’s important, all Rafe really wants is to just be a regular guy. Not that GAY guy. To have it be a part of who he is, but not the headline, every single time.

So when he transfers to an all-boys’ boarding school in New England, he decides to keep his sexuality a secret — not so much going back in the closet as starting over with a clean slate. But then he sees a classmate break down. He meets a teacher who challenges him to write his story. And most of all, he falls in love with Ben . . . who doesn’t even know that love is possible.

This witty, smart, coming-out-again story will appeal to gay and straight kids alike as they watch Rafe navigate feeling different, fitting in, and what it means to be himself.

CURRENT GIVEAWAY —–> HERE

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We were dancers and drummers and standers and jugglers, and there was nothing anyone needed to accept or tolerate. We celebrated.

This was such an amazing read. I know my star rating doesn’t reflect my feelings but this was truly astounding.

Rafe was such a lovely cute but oh-so frustrating character to follow. Rafe leaves his old like to go to this all boy prep school and tries to abandon his label as the “gay kid.” Labels suck,  there’s a reason why I love the quote “labels are for jars and not for people.” I was 100 percent behind Rafe when it comes to this philosophy.

But… oh Rafe you simple fluffy cupcake. I love you, I truly do but you were so not smart about everything. It was so difficult to read through this book because when it comes to lying, especially in a possible relationship, nothing can end well. Despite this fact, I actually still enjoyed reading his voice and seeing how he justifies certain decisions in his mind.

What really did it for me was the side characters. I love Toby and his wild self (even though he sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong time). I loved Rafe’s best friend Claire and despite some of the things she says in the beginning, she always has Rafe’s back. Rafe’s parents are honestly the best and probably one of the most supporting parents in YA history. They are a tad over the top but you can tell they truly love their son and would never ask or want him to change.

And of course, the love interest, Ben. I wanted to shake Ben and tell him so many times that “YOU AND RAFE ARE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER” It’s so obvious it honestly hurts my little heart. Ben is that typical philosophical always got something  wise to say type of guy but I surprisingly still loved him. Ben and Rafe’s relationship was so darn adorkable and was so well developed.

I LOVED how the book explored the difference between tolerance and acceptance. My views on these two words changed me completely and if you read this, you will change too. The book also dives into the topics of listening and self-confidence. Definitely made me think.

Despite these amazing elements of the story, I’m going to have to say some not so positive things about this book. One thing I hated was how we had to read about Rafe play sports with his jock buddies. It was just so descriptive and long and frankly sooo boring. I feel like that’s a personal preference but I felt like there could have been a better or more engaging way to describe these sporty scenes.

Also, even though I loved the relationship between Rafe and Ben, it’s ultimately built on lies. So many times, I wanted to scream at Rafe because so much drama could have been easily avoided if Rafe just spoke during certain situations. RAFE I LOVE YOU BUT PLEASE JUST STOP OVERTHINKING EVERYTHING. I was just so vexed about the situation.

I will tell you that this book is incredibly diverse. We have a gay Jewish main character, POC representation for mental illness and other LGBTQIA+ side characters.  I heard the next book is even better on representation and I look forward to reading about more people. This book is also OWN VOICES so it’s even better!

Openly Straight was a great novel about being proud of who you are and this certainly made me proud to be who I am.

Reading this, I hope you too will love yourself.

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Favorite Books?|Criteria

ENTER MY CURRENT GIVEAWAY {HERE}

How does a book make it to my favorites list. What criteria does it need to have in order to have that “pristine” title? Well here are my top 5 elements a book needs in order for it to be my “favorite book of all time.”

Criteria #1: Rereadability  (try to say that 5 times) 

If I don’t feel compelled to reread a book, nope sorry you failed.

Criteria #2: Memorable Characters/Plot

“Oh, crap what’s that character’s name again?” Yeah BYE.

Criteria #3:  Become somewhat defensive

“Look, I just don’t think you fully understood the concept of The Virgin Suicides and maybe you should reread it?!?!”

Criteria #4: Makes me want to own a copy of the book

I’ve donated a big pile of trash (books) so I only own books that I really really REALLY love or books I know I’ll love. I read Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda on ebook and after I was done, I wanted to own and read the book again.

Criteria #5: Can confidently recommend the book

Hey have you read Dark Places by Gillian Flynn? What’s wrong with you? Don’t you like good books?

What’s your criteria?

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The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas

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Sixteen-year-old Starr Carter moves between two worlds: the poor neighborhood where she lives and the fancy suburban prep school she attends. The uneasy balance between these worlds is shattered when Starr witnesses the fatal shooting of her childhood best friend Khalil at the hands of a police officer. Khalil was unarmed.

Soon afterward, his death is a national headline. Some are calling him a thug, maybe even a drug dealer and a gangbanger. Protesters are taking to the streets in Khalil’s name. Some cops and the local drug lord try to intimidate Starr and her family. What everyone wants to know is: what really went down that night? And the only person alive who can answer that is Starr.

But what Starr does or does not say could upend her community. It could also endanger her life.

Review

I’m kind of late to the game when it came to this book since it took me over a month to finish. I finally sat down and read the entire book through and I must say probably for the first time EVER, this book lived to the hype.

If you don’t know, this book was inspired by the Black Lives Matter movement that was started by an amazing group of women: Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors and Opal Tometi. The movement fights for justice when

This book should have made you livid, disappointed, upset but it should also spark you to gain hope (even if it’s only a little bit).

The writing is extremely accessible and engaging. The main plot follows the aftermath of a black teenager getting killed by a police officer and Starr was in the car when all this went down. Starr obviously plays a crucial role in the case and tries to seek justice for her friend.   

Star was such an amazing beautiful character. She’s smart with that bit of sass that I love with any main character. The side characters definitely didn’t feel like side characters because they actually play a role in the story. Starr’s parents played a big part and so did the rest of her family and friends. What I liked about the book is that it promoted community involvement

Being black, a lot of this stuff resonates with me in such a personal level. Struggles that black America has to deal with goes even beyond police brutality, and Angie Thomas definitely accounts the adversary, especially the ignorance many of the characters had in the novel. It talks about privilege, race, “hood” neighborhoods and gang violence. Reading this, I didn’t read anything new, but it’s an important read for not just black people, but for all people. It doesn’t sugarcoat anything and it doesn’t make excuses for people. This book reminded me of Black Girl Dangerous {review here} when it comes to the harsh but real tone of these topics that’s depicted in these books (Unlike Pepsi’s newest ad lmao)

I would also like to note that the above does also mean that this book isn’t fucking hilarious at times. Starr’s dad was definitely the comedic, especially when he talked about his Harry Potter gang theory. I told so many people about this theory and everyone also thought it was brilliant. He’s hilarious when he applauds some of the stuff that Starr does that makes her mom mad and also when he’s around Starr’s boyfriend, Chris.

This book teaches you to use your voice as a weapon and to always fight for social justice for not just for yourself, but for everyone. There’s someone out there, innocent, who has been wrong by our messed up system and are facing the unjust consequences because of this. Young people are taught that they can’t do anything because they don’t have degrees or even experience but The Hate U Give teaches young individuals that a no one is ever to young to fight for what’s right.

Ooooo let me just say how angry I was with Starr’s friends. I snap-chatted all the stupid shit that was spewed from these girls mouths such as them complaining about their travels on spring break. One of the girls was basically like “ugh, went to the Harry Potter world in Florida, UGH woe is me.” I don’t get how people can just complain about that type of stuff.

I love Angie Thomas for publishing The Hate U Give. I love her for educating people on black culture and black adversary. I love her for giving young black girls out there a voice.

I hope you love her too.

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Currently Reading + Watching|Balancing College, Blogging/Reading and Mental Illness

Well, if you read my title, you can probably tell what this is all about.

Yeah, I haven’t posted in a while. College has beaten me limb by limb giving me no mercy. I’ve also been struggling to get a hold of my mental health and trying to be content about my life. It’s been a difficult couple of weeks because I went through a surge of hopelessness and anxiety but I’ve been getting better but I know that this feeling will keep coming back so hopefully I’ll learn to effectively get through these emotions.

I also gave myself a schedule to post: Tuesday,s Thursdays and Sundays!

I am determined to stick to this schedule. I want to get back to blogging because it’s therapeutic for me and I love sharing my passions with you all. I also love reading your blog posts/opinions and I just wanted to let you know that you all matter to me! I hope to do better with balancing college, blogging, reading, work, etc…

–ANYWAYS, what have I been reading?–

The Hate U Give

32075671Sixteen-year-old Starr Carter moves between two worlds: the poor neighborhood where she lives and the fancy suburban prep school she attends. The uneasy balance between these worlds is shattered when Starr witnesses the fatal shooting of her childhood best friend Khalil at the hands of a police officer. Khalil was unarmed.

Soon afterward, his death is a national headline. Some are calling him a thug, maybe even a drug dealer and a gangbanger. Protesters are taking to the streets in Khalil’s name. Some cops and the local drug lord try to intimidate Starr and her family. What everyone wants to know is: what really went down that night? And the only person alive who can answer that is Starr.

But what Starr does or does not say could upend her community. It could also endanger her life.

Thoughts so far: This book has angered me to no end (but in a good way!).  One of Starr’s friends is literally the worst and I don’t know how she could have tolerated her all this time. I never had a friend like that–probably because I live in a pretty diverse city–and hopefully, I’ll never experience that type of friendship. I love Starr’s dad and I love how parents are more involved in the story because it’s almost rare to see that in YA. I have about 100 pages left and I really want to finish this!!!


Frozen Tides by Morgan Rhodes 

Summary of book 1: I17342701n the three kingdoms of Mytica, magic has long been forgotten. And while hard-won peace has reigned for centuries, a deadly unrest now simmers below the surface.

As the rulers of each kingdom grapple for power, the lives of their subjects are brutally transformed… and four key players, royals and rebels alike, find their fates forever intertwined. Cleo, Jonas, Lucia, and Magnus are caught in a dizzying world of treacherous betrayals, shocking murders, secret alliances, and even unforeseen love.The only outcome that’s certain is that kingdoms will fall. Who will emerge triumphant when all they know has collapsed?

Thoughts so far: For some reason, I haven’t been loving this series but it’s one I want to continue reading. I don’t know what’s motivating me to read the rest of the Falling Kingdom books, but Rhodes must be doing something right if I want to keep reading.


–What I’ve been watching–

Jane the Virgin

Image result for jane the virginJane is a religious young Latina who is a waitress in a hotel in Miami. Her life takes a big turn for the unexpected when her doctor (Dr. Luisa Alver) mistakenly artificially inseminates her during her checkup.

 

 

 

Thoughts so far: I steered cleared of this TV series for some reason due to me thinking that this was going to be propaganda but Jane the Virgin turns out to be a hilarious, outrageous addicting show that has become a new favorite of mine. I would recommend to anyone!

 

What have you been reading/watching?

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